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 Soul Talk News  Volume 22

"When we feel impotent with rage, we are actually potent with rage-
we simply have not yet seen how to effectively use our anger as the fuel that it is."

-- Julia Cameron

SPECIAL NEWS.  I am running a LOVE THE MIRACLE YOU ARE workshop for men, on “Men loving their inner power and building relationships that create happiness!” June 18th

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Counsellor's Diary


By Roger King

What are your beliefs about anger? Do you know how to express your anger safely and creatively?

I have just returned from running a LOVE THE MIRACLE YOU ARE workshop on “Anger and Creativity” with my wife Linda. One task was to just go round the group and say “No” or “Yes” to each person with passion. The simple exercise brought a lot of memories and genuine feelings of real anger to the surface. Often grown adults don’t know how to express anger in a way that is creative and truly caring for the soul.

To begin to experience anger safely is, for some souls, very hard; so much so, that they judge themselves to be “bad” or just wrong if they dare express any legitimate anger. This can often lead to co-dependence, depression and addictive behaviour. For those who want to be happy and spiritually enlightened it can be a shock when you find yourself having to embrace repeated patterns of uncontrollable angry thoughts and feelings. I believe when we can reconnect to our anger safely and creatively, we then begin to get positive insights into how powerfully creative our love can become. I often hear, especially from men, “I feel that when I love I express such negative anger at the person I love.” This negative belief and experience can become a pattern that sows weeds of divorce and symptoms of obsessions, depression and addictions. Learning to love the power within often means we need to “own” our anger in ways that can heal our mind, body and spirit.

You may like to do a checklist on how you feel about expressing anger:

Do you recognise any of the following statements? Just be as honest as you can.

I am afraid of anger!

I have no right to be angry!

Anger is bad and I will lose control! I usually just say, “I’m fine,” yet I’m seething inside.

When someone is angry, I get scared!

It’s not safe to be angry!

My parents were angry but never allowed me to be angry!

I will not be loved if I get angry!

Stuffing my anger down is just how I must do it to survive even though I know it makes me sick!

I would not know how to be creatively and safely angry!

If I get angry I will hurt someone!

I am so angry with myself yet I don’t know what this is linked to.

If I feel angry, I have to be drunk to give me false courage to get angry!

I know I am angry but if I showed it to my family I would be seen as bad!

Anger is natural; remember babies are immediately angry when their emotional and physical needs are not met. Once their true needs are met with love and they feel safe, they light up the room with their joy. To learn how to contact your anger safely and creatively is an area that really opens us up to experience our personal power for respecting ourselves and being more transparently honest with those we relate to in intimate relationships, work and every area of our lives.

Resentment, old anger unexpressed, for any of the above beliefs can impede our ability to truly value our lives and to give our best to life.  Inner harmony is very difficult to find if you feel like a time bomb waiting to explode. Please contact me if you want to discuss anger.

Linda writes: As we explored our anger and creativity in the workshop, people began making links and seeing how their anger is a key to bring more passion and inner truthfulness. We created our own positive affirmations saying:

“I love my anger…

“I love my creativity…

 

Here are some examples:

I love my anger when I dare to feel its power for me instead of against me. I know I am safe.

I love my anger because it keeps me honest

I love my creativity because it moves me forward.

Perhaps you would like to make your own affirmations and I will put them on the website.

P.S. On a lighter note my dog Buddy loves to express his anger each day with “play growling,” biting on the end of a ring being pulled by anyone willing to play! Perhaps playful anger each day can energise our inner wisdom in mind body and spirit. He also finds a postman to bark at! Safely may I add?

 

             --  Roger
             roger@soultalkstories.com

 


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Affirmations

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I create an atmosphere of love, peace and healing within my daily experiences of life


(illustrated by John Welding)

Remember affirmations work when you tell your subconscious mind, with an emotional charge, what you would like to experience in reality. Remember your subconscious mind cannot take a joke.

Humour

Smarter Than You Think

There was a little boy named Johnny who used to hang out at the local corner market. The owner didn't know what Johnny's problem was, but the boys would constantly tease him.

They would always comment that he was two bricks shy of a load or two pickles short of a barrel. To prove it, sometimes they would offer Johnny his choice between a nickel (5 cents) and a dime (10 cents) and Johnny would always take the nickel (they said) because it was bigger.

One day after Johnny grabbed the nickel, the store owner took him aside and said "Johnny, those boys are making fun of you. They think you don't know the dime is worth more than the nickel. Are you grabbing the nickel because it's bigger, or what?"

With a big grin on his face, Johnny slowly turned toward the store owner. "Well," he answered, "If I took the dime, they'd stop doing it, and so far I've saved $20!"

 

Soul Talk Stories

Enjoy reading the stories, the affirmations and illustrations on this uplifting website. As you read this website and books like 'Love The Miracle You Are,' you may be inspired to share your story, of how you came to love the miracle of your life and any simple lessons you learnt on the way. Just go within yourself and be guided by your soul, the higher self and share what is appropriate. You may just share particular affirmations that help you overcome your resistance to 'deserving all good in your life.' You have an opportunity to give healing love to this planet. Thank you.

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